Executive presence needs to be authentic.
There is both internal and external authenticity. Internal authenticity is based on factors invisible to others, including your values, beliefs, principles and purpose. When your choices and values align, you have internal authenticity.
There are many good books on internal authenticity. We fully support the journey of internal development. However, even those who have taken the journey to internal authenticity are often not seen as authentic.
This is because external authenticity is based on the visible behaviors others can observe, which is how they decide if you are authentic. Others cannot see your intentions. Your intentions are misunderstood when there is a disconnect between your internal and external authenticity. When there is alignment between your internal and external authenticity, others can understand your intentions clearly.
You hold the ultimate authority over your internal authenticity.
Only you can truly comprehend whether you’re staying true to yourself in your choices, communications, and behavior.
Conversely, others assess the exterior aspects of authenticity most accurately. These behaviors reflect what others know about you from the outside, and they are often more accurate than you are about your external self. Those who observe you and interact with you make constant decisions about whether they think you are authentic or not.
Others are the ultimate authority regarding your external authenticity.
The book Seeing Yourself as Others Do focuses on raising awareness of the gap between internal and external authenticity and offering ways to close it. We aim to have others’ perceptions of you be closer to what you intended. When your internal and external self are aligned, you are your “ideal self.”





